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Matt Bowen
07-23-2007, 12:10 PM
Enjoy Bumping Into Walls

by Van K. Tharp, Ph.D.

This is a new section featuring Peak Performance Trading Tips. These won’t be tips on some hot new investment. Instead, they’ll be tips on how you get yourself in the best possible condition mentally to perform at a peak level. We’ll be doing one new tip each month. You may have heard some of them in one form or another before, but you can never apply them enough. As a result, these tips should become second nature to you.


In any endeavor in life, you have up and down periods. Dealing with the market has many such up and down periods. In order to profit from the up periods, you have to tolerate or even “enjoy” the down periods.


I’m an NLP modeler. That means if someone does something well, I can figure out the essence of what they are doing by understanding their thinking. Thus, when such a person goes from A to B easily and effortlessly, I can determine how they do it and teach that skill to other people.


It turns out that one of the major problems people have in going from their current location to their desired goal is all of the walls or obstacles they continually run into each day. There is a common solution to these obstacles — make them okay. Don’t worry about getting from point A to B, just enjoy bumping into the walls.


If you’re in the market, one of biggest obstacles you’ll face is the wall of losses. It’s fairly difficult dealing with the markets if you are not willing to lose. It’s almost impossible. It’s like wanting to be alive, but always wanting to breathe in and not willing to breathe out.


When you want to be right, you’re not dealing with the obstacles. Instead, you’re forcing things. When you want to make a profit out of today’s trade, even though it’s a big loser, then you’re not dealing with today’s obstacle. Enjoy the obstacle — embrace it — and be willing to accept it. If the market tells you it’s time to get out at a loss, then do so.


Quite often traders take the relationship they are having with the market, and transmute it by developing a different system or trading with a professional money manager. Now, the old struggle they used to have with the market—of not accepting what the market gives them—becomes a similar struggle they are having with their system or with their new advisor.



Instead of giving up on the market after a string of losses, just in time to miss the really big move, they avoid their system until it is doing really well. When it is showing tremendous profits, they jump on board — only to be blown away by the market. And the same thing happens when they invest with money managers. This desire to be “right” motivates them to jump to the top money manager when he’s hot, only to go through a big string of losses. It’s all the same thing.



Psychologically, if you don’t come to grips with your obstacles and embrace them, you will simply find another way to repeat them. Realize that the walls occur because they are there for you to bump into. When you accept this fact and embrace it, you’ll accept bumping into walls. And strangely enough, you hardly even notice that the walls are there. The result will be a new level of success in the markets.


Van K. Tharp
http://www.iitm.com

Eckbert
07-25-2007, 02:11 AM
Hi Matt, last night I read something very interesting in Psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. I would like to quote a passage, since this passage just confirms your post;
"Still another type of inappropriate response which causes worry, insecurity and tension , is the bad habit of trying to respond emotionally to something which doesn't exist except in our imagination.Not satisfied with overresponding to actual minor stimuli in the actual environment, many of us create straw men in our imaginations. ... In addition to those negatives which actually exist in the environment, we impose our own negatives : This or that may happen;[I]What if[I]such and such happens. When we worry , we form mental pictures - adverse mental pictures of what mayhappen. We then respond to these pictures as ifthey were present reality.

What an excellent book . I can only recommend it as a must have book in ones library.

Unfortunately I must include myself in the above category. I am inclined to overanalise. Why? To be right. Can I be right ? Well 50% in theory.Because once you have pulled the trigger there are only 2 options.
1) you are in the money
2) you are out the money

I would like to suggest another book : The Power of Now - a guide to spiritual enlightment by Eckhart Tolle. Not an easy read , but enlighting.

Thanks for your excellent postings.
Eckbert

Matt Bowen
07-25-2007, 10:45 AM
Hi Eckbert,

Hi Eckbert,

Excellent post... Yes, I'm a big fan of Maxwell Matlz and Psycho-Cybernetics. In May of this year I flew down and spent 3 days to work with Matthew Furey who now owns all of the rights to the Psycho-Cybernetics. He is also one of my mentors. I'm in his elite gold crown coaching program and it's made a huge difference in my life.

http://www.psycho-cybernetics.com/about.html

That seminar blew me away with how much I really didn't know about the power of Psycho-Cybernetics. I'm trying to get Matthew to let me publish a version for traders... that book is by far the best book a trader could read because it screws your head on (the proper way). I think that book could be the most helpful to any trader because what's between the ears of every trader is usually what leads to failure.

The success mechanism must be activated and when I talk to most traders, they are doing (and acting) exactly in the opposite direction of how you must think as a trader. Most traders are operating in the failure mechanism and no matter what they have on the screen as far as technical analysis goes, will help them. By the way, one failure mechanism is trying to be "right" all the time like 80% or 90% of the time... just because you are "right" does noit mean you are making money... that's very hard for most traders to understand.

Most traders are consumed with finding the "magic bullet" or "holy grail" and I just want to stop and ask them: "Hey, you have been at this for 5 years and you still have not made a dime trading...do you think you might be looking at the wrong stuff? In most cases, it never occurs to them that the computer that sits on their shoulders is running the WRONG program and has them literally wired for failure.

When I first read Psycho-Cybernetics I got thought the first 2 chapters and I'm like: "what the hell is this?" Then I got into chapter 3 and it was like somebody hitting me in the head with a sledge hammer... all kinds of bells and whistles starting going off and I realized how much this effected trader. I know understood why traders were so screwed up and literally wired to fail at trading. I immediately started writing down all the problems and questions traders would blurt out during the day and it all lead back to the failure mechanism.

You can't explain this book to people...they have to experience it. This is an "Owner's Manual for the Human Brain"
http://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758